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God's Love Language Most People Don't Know About and What Stops You From Expressing this to Him

Imagine you’re shopping at a retail store looking for a present for a loved one or a close friend. You begin to wonder, “Hmm, what would make a great gift?” But you can’t seem to find something suitable for this particular person.

They may not like tangible presents at all. How do you know what a person’s ideal gift is? Knowing someone's love language comes in handy for situations like this. Why? Because want to give someone a gift they will treasure and appreciate. And also because you love and care about them and you want them to be happy.

Have you ever wondered what kind of gift makes God happy? Well, with God it’s like how can you give something to someone who already has everything or doesn’t need anything? There is a “perfect” present you can gift Him. His love language is simple but not easy for us to give sometimes.

What is a Love Language

The well-known five love languages are from a book written by Gary Chapman. Perhaps you’ve heard of him. In The Five Love Languages, he talks about the different ways of communicating love in a marriage. But we use these languages in relationships with other family members and friends.

Here is the list:

  1. Quality Time

  2. Gifts

  3. Acts of Service

  4. Words of Affirmation

  5. Physical touch

Everyone has their own way of expressing love and how one prefers to receive it. I’ll use myself as an example. I prefer to show my love through exhortation or encouraging others. I enjoy speaking life into people. This would fall under the line of words of affirmation. I prefer to receive love through quality time or gifts. Yes, you can have more than one love language.

There is a sixth one though that few people know about. And it belongs to God alone.

God’s Love Language

Can you guess what that sixth love language is if you don't already know? I’ll give you a hint with these Bible verses and see if you can get it.

  • “If you love me, you will keep my commandments.” John 14:15

  • “But I do as the Father has commanded me, so that the world may know that I love the Father.” John 14:31

  • “For this is the love of God, that we keep his commandments. And his commandments are not burdensome.” 1 John 5:3

  • “But this command I gave them: ‘Obey my voice, and I will be your God, and you shall be my people. And walk in all the way that I command you, that it may be well with you.’” Jeremiah 7:23

If you didn’t guess it God’s love language is obedience. For this is how we love God, we keep His Word. But are we always faithful to obey? The truth is, no, we are not.

What Prevents Us From Obeying (Loving) Him

This isn’t that difficult to guess what prevents us from loving God. Distractions, the flesh, and our unwillingness to abide put a barrier between us and obeying.

Our flesh, our carnal distractions stop us. The things of this world may keep us from following the LORD’s way- the righteous path. You know what you have to do but you make excuses. Like “I’m too tired to read Scripture” or “I don’t have time.” Or “I can’t afford to tithe.” The Spirit may be willing but the flesh is weak.

It’s not only distractions that prevent us from obeying God but what we could lose. What I mean by that is obedience often will lead us to sacrifice something. A lot of times we don’t want to give that extra 20 in the offering. Or we don’t want to help someone in need because it will inconvenience us.

When God tells you to do something you gotta do it. Who are we to think we know better? It’s understandable it’s scary at times. And we know His plans are always good and perfect. But like I said, our flesh tells us don’t lose whatever this thing is. Don’t sacrifice that thing. God sees when we give up something that we value. It doesn't go unnoticed by Him.

Show God You Love Him

Hey, I get it can be a challenge keeping God’s commandments. We often want to do our own thing. But as it says in Galatians five to walk by the Spirit. By doing this you will not gratify the desires of the flesh. Depriving the flesh will lead you to live right and you will want to obey God’s Word.

Put it in your heart that God’s love language is obedience. This should lead you to a different approach to how to express love to Him. So if you want to show God love it is simple: obey His commandments. Don’t only listen to His Word but put it into action.


I told you my love language. Let me know what yours is in the comment section below. If you don’t know what your love language is you can click here to take the quiz.

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12 feb 2023

Oh-oh love this one, Brisa. I have NEVER thought about God's love language. Thank you for this awesome message. My love language that I GIVE is gifts. I USUALLY try to spend quality time with others too- that's my second as well as my receiving. I also like words of affirmation as far as receiving too.

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17 feb 2023
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Thanks for sharing Brooke! I was shocked when I first learned God has a love language. I never would have thought about Him having one. I had to pass it on :)

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Hey there, I'm Brisa- the creator of The Blameless Life. One of the reasons I made this blog site is because I've always looked for a certain type of faith-based blog. I couldn't find what I was looking for, so I made that blog myself. God laid it on my heart for some time and it has become a reality. I hope it will encourage you.

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